New Moon in Cancer: Do You Worry Too Much About the Future?

New Moon in Cancer

17th July 8:31:48pm CET

Hello worry my old amigo :) !

I wish I could say that my current amigos are only happiness, joy, laughter, peace and faith but I am working on my relationships with them. It’s a lovely, rewarding, constant, de-conditioning process.

The truth is, I used to be someone who was constantly worried about the future, about the past, about the things I‘ve said, about those I haven‘t. I was worried what people might think of me, what my family thinks of me, how will I get from A to B and how will this or that play out. Simply put - I was worrying myself sick. In the most literal way, like getting physically and mentally ill. I suspect this is somewhat a very spread out “disease“ that many of us suffer from most of our lives.

The phenomena of worry and overthinking and over-preparing for the future is deeply embedded into our society and culture. I used to think that only Serbians worry too much but then I realized the majority of the world is. Worrying takes away sleep and appetite. We worry that we are worried. Then we are worried bec we worry for being worried. It’s a vicious circle.

The problem is that most people make an incredible effort to keep their minds busy and think all the time. We are afraid of being left alone with ourself and we will do anything to distract ourself from the self. We watch movies, read, chase people to hang out with, work, drink and finally think ourselves to distraction.

People are addicted to thoughts and worry. The moment I realized that I am ADDICTED to worrying, thinking and planning was the moment I stopped putting off my spiritual progress as I realized that progress happens now in the present moment. I understood that as Alan Watts said, the reality is in the eternal NOW. However, instead of living in the now and enjoying the moment we always think that the satisfaction is coming later. We are so future oriented and sadly missing on life by not being fully present in the moment.

This New Moon in Gate 62, The Gate of Preparation challenges us to trust the process, to let go of control and planning too much and to stop thinking obsessively about the Future.

So how did I get from compulsory over-thinker to someone who is now ( well most of her time) more present in the moment.

Here are some useful tips to get there:

1. Don‘t try to stop worrying ! So you avoid getting in the vicious cirlce of worrying that you are worried.

Learn how to leave the mind alone.

2. Connect to your Centre as much as possible by meditating and doing breath-work and Yoga

3. Practice Gratitude - every morning when you wake up and every night you go to bed

4. Play an instrument, paint, get creative

5. Practice Yoga . Yoga means unity, being completely here and now

6. Practice Qi-Gong, Thai Qi

7. Let go of assumptions

I also wrote more on how to be present in the moment in my previous Keeping Still Post.

The ultimate book of how to be more present in the moment is of course ” The Power of Now ” from Echart Tolle. I learned this book by heart some 12 years ago when my dear friend Charlie Goldsmith sent it to me and helped me greatly in my process.

Some questions for contemplation and journaling this New Moon :

• Am I worrying too much ?

• Do I like to plan everything ?

• Do I trust that I will know what I need to know when the moment comes ?

• Do I over-prepare myself for things that are coming ?

• Am I comfortable spending time alone by myself ?

• Do I trust the process and allow the flow of life or do I expect things to happen exactly as I imagined them to?

“I’m grateful for always this moment, the now, no matter what form it takes.” Echart Tolle